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General Discussion / Re: Important research study
« Last post by solarpanel on Saturday 23 February 2019, 07:52 »
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General Discussion / Soler panel
« Last post by solarpanel on Saturday 23 February 2019, 07:43 »
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General Discussion / Important research study
« Last post by Carole on Wednesday 29 August 2018, 13:53 »
Undervaluing the expression of gratitude

A important study relevant to this field has recently been published.

Two psychologists, Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley, working with several hundred participants, asked them to send an email letter to a person who had had a beneficial effect upon their life, to say what that effect had been and to express gratitude.  The researchers then asked the recipients of the letters to find out how they felt about receiving the letters.

A commentator from the British Psychological Society summarised the key findings as follows, ‘The senders of the letters consistently underestimated how positive the recipients felt about receiving the letters and how surprised they were by the content … Age and gender made no difference to the pattern of findings’. 

Kumar and Epley comment that such letter writing appears to benefit both the recipients of the letters and the writers.  They regret that embarrassment may lead people who experience gratitude but do not convey it to ‘refrain from a powerful act of civility which would benefit both parties’.



Kumar, A. and Epley, N. (2018) Undervaluing gratitude: expressers misunderstand the consequences of showing appreciation.  Psychological Science. June 27, 2918.  https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797618772506 



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General Discussion / A thank you for the Leicester Royal Infirmary!
« Last post by Mardon on Tuesday 03 April 2018, 15:48 »
A friend, who had had a bad fall, recently had to be admitted to the A & E Department at Leicester Royal Infirmary. Here she was treated so well by all the staff, who were sympathetic, kindly, friendly and professional. In spite of the department being really busy, everybody worked so hard to help her.

LRI doesn’t always get the praise it deserves, but our friend’s family (and we ourselves) were so grateful for the treatment she received, and we think the staff deserve full recognition.
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General Discussion / An unexpected and unsolicited letter
« Last post by Carole on Wednesday 28 February 2018, 17:30 »
Our family recently received a completely unexpected letter from ‘S’, who as a child had lived along the road from us. She has given me permission to quote from it as it is such a wonderful example of unsolicited appreciation.

‘S’ wrote: ’I’m so relieved I got to see you before you moved. I was so shocked when mum told me you were moving as I realise just how much your home and family has always meant to me. Even your front door seemed so very precious as I stood there for the last time as I had stood so many times as a child and teenager always anticipating a warm welcome and a happy time ... But what makes the memories so wonderful that they are painful to think of is that I just felt so safe and loved by your family...’

This letter, coming as it did out of the blue at a very stressful time for our family, had a heartwarming effect upon us all. We had no idea that coming to our house as a child had meant much to ‘S’, but are so grateful that she took the trouble to write and tell us. Her letter is invaluable to us.

With very best wishes,

Carole
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General Discussion / Thanks to the hardworking staff of a care/nursing home
« Last post by peterD on Wednesday 27 September 2017, 14:34 »
Hello Carole,

Just to say I have registered and will post an appreciation in the next day or two. I have a particular thank you in mind at the moment.

A good idea - we take so much for granted these days - I guess it is something to do with the pace of modern life.

Best wishes
Peter

Hello again,

We have heard so much recently about the poor standards of care for the elderly and vulnerable in residential homes, I felt I wanted to record that it is not all like that.  My sister-in-law has had the progressive form of MS for going on for 30 years and has recently needed extended respite care which will probably become permanent.  During her the time in the care/nursing home she developed a serious condition which eventually necessitated a stay in hospital and operation.  She has now been discharged back to the home.  Whilst she would prefer to be back in her own home, she herself would readily acknowledge, and we have always witnessed, the love and care provided by all the staff, but particularly the nursing staff. This, in our opinion and observation, has gone well beyond the evident and necessary professionalism required. I won't name the establishment but they know we very much appreciate what they have done and continue to do.  Peter
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General Discussion / Re: Introduction to the People Appreciation Society
« Last post by peterD on Sunday 24 September 2017, 08:35 »
Hello Carole,

Just to say I have registered and will post an appreciation in the next day or two. I have a particular thank you in mind at the moment.

A good idea - we take so much for granted these days - I guess it is something to do with the pace of modern life.

Best wishes
Peter
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General Discussion / Re: Introduction to the People Appreciation Society
« Last post by Mardon on Sunday 27 August 2017, 18:07 »
What a good idea this is Carole! I hope you have lots of people subscribing to it and appreciating many other people. I always try to send a note to people I know who are experiencing difficulties and also thank you letters to those who have helped me (including yourself Carole!).

Love and best wishes.
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General Discussion / Re: Introduction to the People Appreciation Society
« Last post by Carole on Sunday 06 August 2017, 18:41 »
Thank you for that post. 

It prompted me to put 'Scouts' and 'appreciation' into Google and lo and behold, the Boy Scouts of America have a Volunteer Appreciation scheme, by which their volunteer helpers receive a letter or even a certificate of thanks for all that they do.

This reminds me that I have always thought that organisations which rely on volunteers would be wise to demonstrate their appreciation in an active and enjoyable way.  Some youth clubs have annual Volunteer Suppers, cooked and served by the young people. 

Any other examples?

Carole
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General Discussion / Introduction to the People Appreciation Society
« Last post by Carole on Sunday 06 August 2017, 16:54 »
There are many ‘appreciation societies’ – for clouds, for roundabouts on roads, even for pylons!  But there is no People Appreciation Society and I believe we need one.

Many people are desperate for appreciation.  Have you noticed how the face of a child or of an adult ‘lights up’ when something positive or appreciative is said to them? And how downcast they appear when they are criticised or fail at something important to them?

So I am herewith opening a People Appreciation Society!

What is involved?

There are no fees to pay and no commitments.  But if you wish to take this idea forward, we ask you actively to think about giving some appreciation to somebody each day.  Examples might be:

*  Saying something appreciative to the parent(s) of a young child.  (I still remember how joyful I felt when a passer-by, looking into the pram with my six months old little girl, exclaimed, “Look at that smile!  You can tell a baby is loved when she smiles like that!”)

*  Saying something positive to a neighbour or colleague.  Perhaps personal comments are best avoided (not sure about that), but an appreciative word is almost always valued.

*  Sending a card or making a phone call to thank someone for work they have undertaken or a contribution they have made.

Thank you very much for your interest.   

Carole
      
      
      

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